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Be Magnetic
in Your Relationships

A hybrid group + individual coaching program to help you trust yourself, speak up, and be influential.

Have you gotten lost inside your own life?

You might feel overlooked. Maybe you’ve always thought of yourself as naturally quiet. But is that right? After all, you can be so uninhibited with your friends. In groups, though – especially around men and authority figures – when you do speak up, it often comes out wrong. It’s either too meek or too forceful, and people don’t respond as you’d hoped.

So, you stay in the background, taking care of others. You’re really good at it, and it’s nice to be needed… but it would be nice if someone would think of you, too, instead of just expecting your help all the time (though you do always say yes), and maybe offer to support you once in a while (though you couldn’t accept it if it were offered)…

Okay, you know that’s a mixed signal, but it’s confusing. You’re so used to prioritizing others, living according to their needs and opinions, that you’ve lost touch with what you want. To be totally honest, sometimes you feel unsure of who you are.

You notice people who take up space so easily. How do they do it? Where does their self-belief come from?

You know you want more – to be freer, bigger, more influential, looked up to, and – as long as we’re dreaming – cherished. But is it selfish to want more? Won’t that upset things – inconvenience, or even hurt, the people who depend on you?

You’ve tried so many ways to feel happy and good without upsetting things.

People-pleasing (obviously), only it doesn’t seem actually to please anyone (especially you). You’ve hinted and hoped that others would figure out what you need and offer it. You’ve waited for permission or invitation to prioritize yourself, but when it came, you turned it down because it felt confusing, uncomfortable, or half-hearted.

You’ve tried to find contentment in small investments in yourself: self-help books, massages, internet freebies. When those haven’t worked, you’ve scolded yourself – “Get over it! This is the deal you signed up for!” – and shamed yourself for being selfish and ungrateful.

But still you feel lost, unseen and unconsidered, frustrated, tired, and a sense that you are running out of time.

Ignoring your needs and sacrificing yourself are not sustainable solutions.

Actually, they’re not solutions at all because they don’t address the problem at its root:
a long time ago, you unconsciously traded authenticity for safety through people pleasing and caretaking. You became the default doer, soother, smoother, and cleaner, and now you’re trapped in a cycle where you always come last.

You’re not choosing to put others first. You’ve been programmed to see this as the only acceptable option. Is it any wonder that you’ve disconnected from who you are and what you want? And that permission and invitation you’ve been waiting for? It’s not coming from them.

It comes from you.

The real solution is to claim the space you’ve been given.

You already have permission. You’ve already been invited. It’s time to accept it.

The good news is that reconnecting with yourself and prioritizing your needs and desires isn’t selfish. It’s better for everyone.

In fact, it makes you magnetic.

You are invited to Be Magnetic in Your Relationships

Our relationships with others are important to us. They also are a mirror for our relationship with ourselves. As within, so without.

In Be Magnetic in Your Relationships, you’ll go beyond boundary-setting and asking for what you want. You’ll cultivate a different relationship with yourself and the world.

Unshakeable Inner Authority

Develop deep trust in your intuition and discernment. Stop second-guessing yourself and honor your inner wisdom. Enjoy the quiet confidence of knowing yourself instead of seeking validation from the outside world.

Clear Purpose and Vision

Move beyond vague dissatisfaction to articulate a compelling vision for your life. This clarity is a beacon that attracts opportunities and people who want to support your vision.

Intentional Commitments

Rather than giving reflexively to avoid conflict and gain approval, you’ll learn to choose your commitments with care and thoughtfulness. Your “yes” will mean something because you also say “no.” You’ll learn to say no without feeling guilty or over-explaining. People will value your attention more because it isn’t given to just anyone.

Emotional Self-Possession

You’ll learn to manage your emotional state without relying on others to make you feel good, validate you, or avoid triggering you. You won’t need circumstances always to go your way but will be able to meet them with flexibility and emotional resilience. This creates a sense of safety and stability that feels great and that others find compelling.

Comfort with Your Own Power – and Playfulness

You’ll learn to stop shrinking, minimizing your intelligence, ambition, success, or opinions to make others comfortable or avoid judgment. You’ll make peace with taking up space and being seen, not only in your power but in your playfulness, which allows others to do the same.

Deep and Supportive Friendships

Experience a safe, supportive community where you can be completely vulnerable without judgment, supported without feeling less-than, and celebrated with genuine enthusiasm. Be seen, known, and valued by women like you, who speak the same language, in a collective where everyone’s growth lifts the whole community.

Outcome Neutrality

You work towards your goals, but you’ll learn to hold them lightly – not so attached to specific outcomes or other people’s approval. You’ll learn to really enjoy not just the work but the process of becoming the person who tries, who goes for it, puts herself out there, and allows herself to be seen just as she is.

How it Works

First, you’ll learn to take exquisite care of yourself – not to improve or fix yourself, but to develop a tender, loving, curious relationship with your body and soul.

Reconnecting with your body really is the first step. Your body holds all your wisdom about what feels good, what doesn’t, what you want, and what you need. Learn to listen to physical sensations, to notice how your body says “yes” or “no,” and to trust those signals even when your mind argues.

As you slow down and create space for your inner experience, your emotional literacy will blossom. Instead of pushing away uncomfortable emotions, you’ll learn to welcome and release them, so they don’t get stuck, and to be curious about them, so you can learn from them.

Self-compassion naturally follows. The more you listen to your body and emotions, the more the self-criticism will be turned down. You’ll find yourself speaking kindly to yourself – the way you’d speak to a beloved friend. Easier, more organic boundaries follow, too, from knowing what you need and honoring it – not from reactive anger or resentment. Saying “no” becomes an act of self-love, not self-defense.

This is you “finding” yourself and learning to trust yourself again.

As you reconnect to yourself, you’ll start noticing beliefs that hold you back – the unconscious programming will become conscious. You’ll learn to question the beliefs that limit you, so that you can free yourself to be the real, authentic you.

You’ll learn to express yourself honestly, without self-consciousness. With the confidence of self-trust, you’ll be better able to tolerate other people’s disappointment when you say “no” and to feel worthy of their support when they offer it.

It’s true, some people may not like it. But maybe they’re not your people.

Your authenticity will shine like a beacon to others, though, in a way your people-pleasing, caretaking persona never did. These people – your people – will look to you, want to know what you think, and want to help you.

Why This Program

Most coaching works at the level of effect, giving you strategies and tactics to change things on the surface of your life.

Be Magnetic works at the level of cause. Instead of teaching you to do more, I help you resource yourself first through self-tending practices that fill you up. And then instead of marching you through a one-size strategy, you’ll connect to your essential self, who has the answers for you! You’ll learn to befriend your own feelings, be curious about your own thinking, cultivate your intuition, and trust yourself. You’ll become magnetic from the inside out by becoming more you.

We do this in a wildly supportive community of women who understand exactly what you’re going through – because they’re going through it with you. And you won’t be rushed. The year-long format allows for a “messy middle” – the slow, non-linear process of reconnecting with yourself – rather than expecting quick fixes.

This isn’t about becoming more productive or optimized. It’s about becoming more magnetic by dropping what doesn’t serve you and embracing your authentic desires without apology… and discovering that when you’re resourced and fulfilled, everyone in your life actually benefits and is drawn in.

The Details

Be Magnetic in Your Relationships is a year-long program with active phases followed by a rest and integration period.

The Rhythm

  • Retreats: Two live, online (Zoom) retreats bookend the year, in January and December. An optional onsite retreat meets in April in Mexico.
  • 3 months on, 1 month off – We meet for three months, then take a month to rest and integrate what you’ve learned.
  • Weekly 90-minute sessions during active phases. These calls include 30-min of 1:1 connecting with another member followed by 60-min of group programming. 
  • Each month follows the same supportive rhythm:
    • Week 1: Teaching — You learn new concepts and tools
    • Week 2: Group Coaching — We work through stuck spots together
    • Week 3: Individual Coaching — You and I dive deep 1:1
    • Week 4: Gather In — We reflect on the month and set intentions for what’s ahead, collectively

The Calendar

  • Phase 1, Body: January-March (off in April)
  • Phase 2, Mind: May-July (off in August)
  • Phase 3, Communication: September-November (off in December)

Why This Works

The active phases give you momentum and community support, while the rest months let you practice what you’ve learned in your real life without pressure. You’re never alone for too long, but you’re also never overwhelmed – there’s always space to breathe and integrate. The online retreats create an intentional beginning and celebratory ending. The optional in-person retreat is an immersive, transformational experience that bonds you powerfully.

This format honors that real transformation happens in seasons, not in a straight line. You get the consistency of regular connection with the wisdom of natural rhythms.

Logistics

Regular group meetings: Tuesdays at 12-1:30pm Central Time*.

*Once the group has formed, we can adjust timing collectively to accommodate the needs of the group, if necessary.

Online Launch Retreat

January 9, 4-6pm CT, & January 10, 10am – 12pm CT, on Zoom.

Phase 1

January 13 – March 31, 2026

Rest & Integration

April 1 – May 11, 2026

Onsite Retreat (optional)

April 20-24 at Onze Xpuha Sanctuary, Mexico

Phase 2

May 12 – July 28, 2026

Rest & Integration

July 29 – September 7, 2026

Phase 3

September 8 – November 24, 2026

Online Celebration Retreat

December 4, 4-6pm CT, & December 5, 10am – 12pm CT, on Zoom.

Onsite Retreat

The beautiful Onze Xpuha Sanctuary in Riviera Maya, Mexico, will be all ours for four days and nights, April 20-24, 2026.

Located just 1 hour and 15 minutes from Cancun International Aiport, Onze Xpuha is magical. The Sanctuary is built around a natural wonder: a cenote, or underground pool. Considered sacred in the local Mayan culture, the cenote suffuses the jungle grounds of Onze with its presence. I think it must influence the owners and staff who run the Sanctuary, because they are extraordinary hosts who take exquisite care of their guests.

The luxurious and secluded 10-acre property will (again) be for our exclusive use during our retreat, and it has everything we need, so you can really relax: unpack once and sink fully into the Sanctuary. Accommodations are seven sumptuous villas centered around a beautiful garden. We will gather, relax, and eat in the spacious and comfortable open-air palapa, which is adjacent to the most inviting swimming pool. In addition to spaces for play and yoga, the property also features another sacred space: Temescal, or Mayan sweat lodge.

As well as the full range of the spacious yet intimate grounds and locally sourced, beautiful meals prepared on site, we’ll be taking advantage of the distinctive amenities Onze offers: a Temescal ceremony, swimming in the cenote, sound bathing, rebirthing breathwork, massage, and music and dancing.

Cost: $2100-2500 (depending on the accommodations you choose)

Includes: 4-days, 4-nights of luxury accommodations, all meals, all retreat programming, use of the entire grounds, and transportation from and to Cancun International Airport.

Does not include airfare to Cancun.

About Me

I’m Allison, your coach and group leader. I am a Certified Master Coach and Life Coach Training instructor, with more than 15 years’ experience helping people like you go from good – helpful and pleasing – to great – authentic, powerful, magnetic.

I discovered this potential in myself while giving birth to my first child. Before then, I was well-behaved: a high-achieving student, responsible Naval officer, devoted teacher, and dutiful wife and daughter. But labor showed me something I had never before experienced: wildness – power that had nothing to do with anyone’s permission or approval. It was elemental, and we were collaborating to do something magnificent: birth new life.

That experienced changed me. For the first time, I knew my worth, and I stopped settling for crumbs or believing I needed to earn my place. It made me hungry for Big Work – meaningful, life-changing. I wanted to help other women to discover their power, too.

I left school teaching, became a birth educator and doula, and ultimately found my calling as a life coach. Birth and motherhood gave me the raw ingredients; life coaching has shaped them. Everything I teach, every tool I share with my clients, has changed my life – has liberated and uplifted me and magnetized to me a life that fills me with awe. That’s why I’m so confident they can help you, too.

What Women are Saying

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“I've taken my power back and am putting myself first and putting my both mental and physical wellbeing at the forefront of everything I do every day. And the transformation of that has been incredible. And people are noticing. They're like, “Oh my goodness. You seem so lively or so energetic and happy.” And I'm like, “I know!” and it feels so good.”

Shayla
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“I’ve learned to really and truly center myself in my own, one, wild and precious life. I really actually get it. That centering led me to prioritize self-care – my body budget and my creativity. That led to being a creative person again – creating every day and being consistent with it in a way that I hadn't been able to for years because I was always last on the list. A tremendous amount of healing came from feeling my own self-worth and worthiness that I deserved to be the center of my own life… I now have a vision for my future that feels inevitable.”

Trisha
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“What I like best [about being in your group program] is the women – the endless love and support and willingness for vulnerability between all of us. I have never had a safe space like this where I feel so at home, so seen, and so protected. We were all working alone on our own stuff, and then we came together, and it all just sort of meshes. Even if it doesn't mesh on the outside, it meshes when we're all together…. It's not easy, this work, but it's so worth it, and you just feel so supported while you'e doing it. It just makes it so much easier, so much easier.”

Michaela
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“Here you come full circle: you know yourself when you're little, and then you grow up and you lose yourself. But here, you come back to yourself – you come home to yourself and the root of who you are.”

Stacy
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“We aren’t just learning new stuff. I'm unpacking and deprogramming myself – deprogramming my relationship to the world. I find myself all the time noticing, ‘Oh my gosh, whatever that is, that's been there, and I haven't seen it.’ But now I do.”

KristaInstructor, Skate Nao
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“What I love about your work is that you give us tools to be able to support ourselves. That is something I’ve never had before. It’s really powerful.”

Jade
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“What I like best [about being in your group program] is how I feel now. I feel not only connected but deeply connected. I believe this is how I have always meant to be.”

Amy

Cost: $6,075 for the year – $500 deposit due upon enrollment, followed by 12 monthly payments of $465.

FAQs

1. "Will I be judged or criticized for sharing personal things in the group?"

I understand this concern – it takes courage to be vulnerable with new people. The women I attract to this work are kind, supportive souls who come with their own struggles and insecurities. They’re not here to judge; they’re here to heal and grow alongside you. I create a safe container where confidentiality is sacred, and you’ll find that sharing your truth actually creates deeper connection, not judgment. Many women say the group becomes their safest space.

“When others began to open up, I realized we were all feeling the same way. Vulnerability isn’t always easy, but there’s a real desire for it and that’s what brings us together. There’s also this deep respect for confidentiality. You can share without fear, because no one’s taking your story outside the space.” – Stacy

2. "Do I deserve to spend this much money and time on myself?"

This question breaks my heart because it shows how deeply you’ve been conditioned to put everyone else first. The truth is, investing in yourself isn’t selfish – it’s essential. When you fill your own cup, you show up better for everyone you love. Your children, partner, and friends all benefit when you’re grounded, authentic, and connected to yourself. You don’t just deserve this investment; the people you care about deserve the version of you that emerges from it.

“I realized, if I’m not spending my money on me, what, what good is it going to do? I might as well spend it on myself.” – Krista

3. "What if I can't commit to the full schedule due to my busy, unpredictable life?"

I designed this program for real women with real lives – jobs, kids, travel, chaos. While I want your commitment, I’m not going to make you feel guilty if life happens. We record everything, offer catch-up options, and work around your schedule when needed. What you’ll actually discover is that prioritizing this time for yourself teaches you to set boundaries elsewhere, and many women find they have more time, not less, because they stop saying yes to everything else.

“I was never like that before this program.” – Michaela

4. "Will I fit in if I'm not a successful professional or don't have my life together?"

Your worth isn’t determined by your job title, income, or how “together” you appear. I’ve worked with stay-at-home moms, executives, entrepreneurs, women in transition, and everything in between. What matters is your willingness to grow and your commitment to yourself. The beauty of the group is the diversity – you’ll learn as much from a woman navigating divorce as from a CEO, because we’re all human beings working on the same core issues.

“I’m really coming to the realization that my relationships with other women are really fulfilling in really deep ways. I think that’s why women live longer, because we have each other.” – Krista

5. "I've never done coaching before - how is this different from therapy, and what should I expect?"

Coaching helps healthy people make or manage big change. We’ll focus on your dreams — eliminating the barriers that keep you from them and creating the conditions that make them inevitable. It’s a little like having a wise and enthusiastic friend who doesn’t believe your BS! She believes the best in you, helps you uncover it in yourself, and holds you accountable to your own growth. If depression, anxiety, or unprocessed trauma would prevent you from benefiting from that kind of relationship, therapy might be a better fit.

6. "What if this feels too 'touchy-feely' or spiritual for me?"

While we do deep inner work, it’s practical and grounded. We talk about real situations – difficult conversations at work, setting boundaries with family, trusting your gut in decisions. Yes, we explore emotions and intuition, but always in service of creating tangible changes in your actual life. The “woo” is in service of the practical.

“This is not just a normal coaching program that you do online. It’s really felt like an invitation to have like a new way of seeing myself. I didn’t expect to feel such a strong sense of self-worth and support.” – Shayla

7. "What if I'm too introverted or don't like sharing in groups?"

You don’t have to be the most talkative person in the room to benefit enormously. Some of our most transformative members were quiet observers who shared selectively but absorbed everything. The group dynamic actually helps introverts – you can learn from others’ situations without always having to be the one talking. Plus, you have your private 1:1 sessions each month where it’s just you and me. Many introverts find that the safety of the group actually helps them find their voice.

“The group setting has a lot of power because you have a lot of different viewpoints and different opinions… Listening to other people’s stories and other people’s outcomes and what they’ve overcome and how they’re growing is inspiring for your own growth. There is also something hugely rewarding in being a part of someone else’s change.” – Jade

Are you feeling called?

If so, say yes to –

  • Nine months of curriculum and coaching over the course of one year
  • Nine Magnetic Lessons
  • Nine group coaching calls
  • Nine private, one-on-one calls with me
  • Nine group reflection and celebration calls
  • A whole year of connection and exponential growth
  • A cohort of brilliant women to learn and grow with
  • A high-touch coach who sees the Magnetic woman in you and knows how to coax her out!
  • A private online learning and moderated communication space, Circle
  • Online retreats to launch and conclude our year together
  • An optional magical in-person retreat in Mexico

By the end of our year together, you’ll …

Share your authentic self without worrying what others think – no more masking or performing – and your natural confidence will draw people to you.

Experience life flowing more smoothly. Opportunities will open up, people will reach out to connect, and you’ll feel that life is working with you.

Radiate the kind of energy that makes others feel good simply from being around you. You’ll be more rested and self-assured.

Feel the exhilaration of being truly yourself – sharing your ideas freely and inspiring others just by living authentically.

Have a new set of ride-or-die friends – the women of Be Magnetic – to learn, play, and grow with.

I'm in!

Every enrollment begins with a conversation. Click on the button above to schedule a 30-min call with me. We’ll talk about your desires and the program and make sure it’s a perfect fit. Not quite ready for that? Ask me anything by email, info@allisonevanscoaching.

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