Communication Archives - Allison Evans Coaching

How to Say No to Someone Who Won’t Take No for an Answer

My client’s sister just invited him to come for a visit. Although it’s a nice offer, he doesn’t want to go, for a dozen good reasons. But he dreads the blow-back he’s going to get when he tells her no. His sister has always been the squeaky wheel in the…

Allison EvansApril 26, 2025

Communication Love & Relationships Stop Suffering, Start Living

Underground Desire, Mangled Request

Dining room curtains recently taught me how complicated my relationship with desire is and how bad I am at asking for what I want. I bought the curtains a month ago, to complete our kitchen and dining room renovation. But it was another month before I bought the rods. I…

Allison EvansOctober 7, 2022

Communication

How to Say No to Someone You Want to Make Happy

My client was feeling suffocated by his girlfriend. He loved her a lot and had no desire to break up, but he was starting to feel oppressed by her need to be in constant communication – texting continually throughout the day and talking frequently. He was happy with occasional communication…

Allison EvansSeptember 11, 2020

Communication

Can You Trust Your Friends?

A Root Cause of Mistrust and How to Solve It Have you ever said yes, even though you really wanted to say no? On the flip side, have you ever wondered if someone who said yes to you really meant it? My client has been struggling with this. What she…

Allison EvansAugust 28, 2020

Communication

Do You Avoid Conflict?

I just hate conflict. That was my client’s answer when I asked her why she hadn’t spoken up in a staff meeting. . . and when I asked another client why she hadn’t protested her mother-in-law’s disregard of her baby’s nap time. . . and when I asked another client…

Allison EvansJune 12, 2020

Communication Love & Relationships

The Four Words That Cracked My Marriage Open

I drew in my breath to defend myself, but an idea from "Loving What Is" came to me that changed everything.

Allison EvansOctober 28, 2016

Communication Parenting & Family Life

Magic Words to Make Love Grow

In my previous blog post I gave you my process for clear communication. Processes can be transformational, but they take practice to get the hang of. Sometimes you want something simple, a big win in one step.

Allison EvansDecember 10, 2015

Communication

How to Say No to Someone Who Won’t Take No for an Answer

Underground Desire, Mangled Request

How to Say No to Someone You Want to Make Happy

Can You Trust Your Friends?

Do You Avoid Conflict?

The Four Words That Cracked My Marriage Open

Magic Words to Make Love Grow

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