Dining room curtains recently taught me how complicated my relationship with desire is and how bad I am at asking for what I want. I bought the curtains a month ago, to complete our kitchen and dining room renovation. But it was another month before I bought the rods. I…
What you judge, you’re attached to. What you’re attached to, limits you. To release yourself from the limitations of attachments, release judgments. In other words: forgive.Forgiveness is close to my heart because last March I forgave something very big, and the results have astonished me: I feel freer than I ever have in…
Guy and I have had 27 Valentine’s Days together, all of them happy. People have asked, “What’s your secret?” Good Luck I first want to acknowledge our privilege. We are lucky to be educated, well-employed, and white. It awards us right out of the gate an ease that not every…
At the School for The Work, Byron Katie, the originator of The Work, was sometimes asked, “How do I know when I should do The Work? How do I know when I’m done?” She answered the question with a question: “Do you love it yet?” She didn’t say, “You’re done when…
My blog post last week was about an argument I had with my husband. I wrote about it to share my process for understanding and reconciliation. I also wanted to share that I’m not perfect – that, in fact, perfection is not what this work is about. This work is…
Finding My Way After Losing It I’m pretty good at being married. I wrote a post about it recently, when we celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary (“Our Secret to a Happy Marriage”). Which is why it was so upsetting that I got into an argument with my husband this week.…