I drew in my breath to defend myself, but an idea from "Loving What Is" came to me that changed everything.
Allison EvansOctober 28, 2016
What you judge, you’re attached to. What you’re attached to, limits you. To release yourself from the limitations of attachments, release judgments. In other words: forgive.Forgiveness is close to my heart because last March I forgave something very big, and the results have astonished me: I feel freer than I ever have in…
Allison EvansSeptember 23, 2022
Guy and I have had 27 Valentine’s Days together, all of them happy. People have asked, “What’s your secret?” Good Luck I first want to acknowledge our privilege. We are lucky to be educated, well-employed, and white. It awards us right out of the gate an ease that not every…
Allison EvansFebruary 14, 2022
At the School for The Work, Byron Katie, the originator of The Work, was sometimes asked, “How do I know when I should do The Work? How do I know when I’m done?” She answered the question with a question: “Do you love it yet?” She didn’t say, “You’re done when…
Allison EvansFebruary 10, 2021
My blog post last week was about an argument I had with my husband. I wrote about it to share my process for understanding and reconciliation. I also wanted to share that I’m not perfect – that, in fact, perfection is not what this work is about. This work is…
Allison EvansAugust 22, 2020
Finding My Way After Losing It I’m pretty good at being married. I wrote a post about it recently, when we celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary (“Our Secret to a Happy Marriage”). Which is why it was so upsetting that I got into an argument with my husband this week.…
Allison EvansAugust 14, 2020
Every judgment you have about your partner is an opportunity either to erect a barrier between you or to grow more intimate.
Allison EvansNovember 20, 2015