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What Is Joy, and How Can You Experience More of It?

What is joy?It’s such a compelling concept, but no dictionary definition I’ve ever read seems to capture it.If we can understand what it is, then we’ll know how to experience more of it.First, what it isn’t.Though joy can make you happy, it isn’t plain happiness. Happiness is what you feel…

Allison EvansSeptember 13, 2023

Stop Suffering, Start Living

Mental Jiu Jitsu for Getting Unstuck

“It is better to receive than to give. How might that be true?”My client inhaled sharply, then started to weep.She was drowning in responsibilities at work and at home. She had come to our call asking for solutions but kept batting away my ideas.More than one “Yeah, but” in a…

Allison EvansJuly 28, 2023

Getting Things Done Stop Suffering, Start Living

The Brain Huddle: A Science-based Tool to Resolve Internal Conflict

How do you resolve internal conflict – that pushing and pulling of the mind between different conclusions and opposed courses of action? It’s a bedeviling part of the human condition, to feel torn in this way. You can lose hours, days, even lifetimes back-and-forth-ing over what to make of the past…

Allison EvansJune 23, 2023

Stop Suffering, Start Living

Reflections on Boundaries (for Givers and Women and Anyone Who Struggles)

“You don’t have to be angry to set a boundary,” I said. “Wait, what?” my client replied. She and her husband were having a disagreement over something that seemed trivial: he wanted to watch the evening news during dinner; she wanted to eat without it. “I just don’t want to…

Allison EvansJune 7, 2023

Getting Things Done Stop Suffering, Start Living

Should I Stay or Should I Go? An Authentic Desire Tool to Help You Find Clarity

“I just don’t know if it’s worth it anymore.” My client was lamenting the struggles of her relationship. Things had been so easy and delicious in the early days. But after a year together, differences that had been overlookable were taking center stage. “Do the pros still outweigh the cons?”…

Allison EvansMay 26, 2023

Getting Things Done Stop Suffering, Start Living

What If You Don’t Know What You Want?

My client is one of the kindest people I know. She is patient, philosophical, and takes the high road and the long view. But she recently confessed to me that she didn’t know what I meant about “authentic desire.” “Is that some special category of wanting, some extra gear in desire that…

Allison EvansMay 12, 2023

Getting Things Done Stop Suffering, Start Living

If You Hate Resolutions (but Still Desire Change)

Me at age 10: the year I starting hating resolutions. “I don’t want to set a resolution,” my client said at our first meeting of the new year. “I don’t like goals, either. They always fail.”Strong emotion almost always hides a desire for the thing being rejected: my client wanted…

Allison EvansJanuary 26, 2023

Getting Things Done Potpourri

Set Your New Year Intentions

Intentions are the cool older cousin of New Year’s Resolutions – the one you only see once a year because she lives at the beach in California with her free-spirited mom, but they always come home for the holidays. New Year’s Resolutions are about hard work, willpower, and fixing what’s…

Allison EvansDecember 22, 2022

Love & Relationships Stop Suffering, Start Living

Finally Free

What you judge, you’re attached to. What you’re attached to, limits you. To release yourself from the limitations of attachments, release judgments. In other words: forgive.Forgiveness is close to my heart because last March I forgave something very big, and the results have astonished me: I feel freer than I ever have in…

Allison EvansSeptember 23, 2022

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