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Parenting & Family Life

Kids, Parents, and Respect

This week my 18-year-old daughter told a story of how I’d crushed a dream of hers when she was a middle schooler. I could believe that I had an opinion on what she had wanted to do. But the idea that I would have “crushed” “a dream” – such high…
February 23, 2021
Stop Suffering, Start Living

I Need to Make a Decision

How to Invite the "Next Right Step" Last week I wrote about a new approach to New Year’s resolutions. What if you want to be resolved about something, but you’re not? You want to act – feel like you should or even need to – but you are deadlocked within…
January 22, 2021
relationship rehabCommunication

How to Say No to Someone You Want to Make Happy

My client was feeling suffocated by his girlfriend. He loved her a lot and had no desire to break up, but he was starting to feel oppressed by her need to be in constant communication – texting continually throughout the day and talking frequently. He was happy with occasional communication…
September 11, 2020
Potpourri

A Box of Chocolates

Little, Mighty, Coach-y Shifts of Perspective Patience v. presence Patience is considered a virtue, but I think we can do better than that. I prefer to cultivate presence instead. Patience comes from the Latin root pati, which means to suffer or endure. Presence, on the other hand, comes from the…
July 10, 2020