Anxiety Archives - Allison Evans Coaching

Mental Jiu Jitsu for Getting Unstuck

“It is better to receive than to give. How might that be true?”My client inhaled sharply, then started to weep.She was drowning in responsibilities at work and at home. She had come to our call asking for solutions but kept batting away my ideas.More than one “Yeah, but” in a…

Allison EvansJuly 28, 2023

Getting Things Done Stop Suffering, Start Living

Feeling at Capacity? Ask for Help.

Lately I’ve been worried that I’m forgetting to do something. That thought would come like a sneak attack during an otherwise happy day or peaceful night’s sleep and set my heart racing. It turned out I was right, but not in the way I feared. Getting to the Answer “What’s…

Allison EvansFebruary 9, 2023

Getting Things Done Stop Suffering, Start Living

If You Hate Resolutions (but Still Desire Change)

Me at age 10: the year I starting hating resolutions. “I don’t want to set a resolution,” my client said at our first meeting of the new year. “I don’t like goals, either. They always fail.”Strong emotion almost always hides a desire for the thing being rejected: my client wanted…

Allison EvansJanuary 26, 2023

Getting Things Done Stop Suffering, Start Living

It’s Not About You

Do you have a mission? The word mission comes from the Latin mittere, which means send – as in to be sent out into the world on assignment, to spread the word and create change.The women in my Be the Heroine coaching group either have a mission or are making themselves…

Allison EvansOctober 21, 2022

Stop Suffering, Start Living

I Need to Make a Decision

How to Invite the "Next Right Step" Last week I wrote about a new approach to New Year’s resolutions. What if you want to be resolved about something, but you’re not? You want to act – feel like you should or even need to – but you are deadlocked within…

Allison EvansJanuary 22, 2021

Stop Suffering, Start Living

How to Coach Yourself When Things Are Out of Control

“Things are out of control.” That thought showed up in my self-coaching meditation this morning. I do it every day to know what’s on my mind, so that I can clear it and give the day a clean slate. I begin by journaling on the question that often begins my…

Allison EvansNovember 13, 2020

Communication

Can You Trust Your Friends?

A Root Cause of Mistrust and How to Solve It Have you ever said yes, even though you really wanted to say no? On the flip side, have you ever wondered if someone who said yes to you really meant it? My client has been struggling with this. What she…

Allison EvansAugust 28, 2020

Stop Suffering, Start Living

What to Do When You Are Agitated and Can’t Turn Off Thinking: Part 3

Part 3: Investigate Your Thinking In Part 1 of this series, you learned how to manage the foundation of your wellbeing, your Body Budget. Part 2 taught you the important skill of “down regulation,” which is how to bring yourself from a state of agitation into state of calm through…

Allison EvansAugust 8, 2020

Stop Suffering, Start Living

What to Do When You Are Agitated and Can’t Turn Off Thinking: Part 2

Part 2: Regulate Your State of Arousal In Part 1 of this series, you learned about the Body Budget. The body budget is both foundational for wellbeing and the first step in “anxiety triage.” It is foundational in that you give yourself the best chance of a good mood by…

Allison EvansJuly 26, 2020

Anxiety

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