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Stop Suffering, Start Living

Holiday Stress?

My client is a mom of three under seven – a big job on top of her big job. As we coached, she was surrounded by piles of outgrown clothes and toys, the detritus of a seasonal decluttering.“And now,” she announced incredulously, “we have to do presents!”I was supposed to…
November 22, 2023
Getting Things Done

How’s Your Work-Life Balance?

I was surprised to discover (in my early 20s) that I didn’t like being in the Navy. I had looked forward to serving in the military for so long. What was going on?I knew it wasn’t my colleagues. I loved them. It was the culture: aggressive, black-and-white, fast-moving, demanding, pitiless.…
August 29, 2023
Stop Suffering, Start Living

Can Self-Love and Weight Loss Go Together?

Some of my clients want to lose weight but feel ambivalent about that desire. In this body-positive moment, to diet feels retrograde: a failure of self-love, a triumph of patriarchal conditioning, and fat-shaming masquerading as “health.” Is it possible to love yourself unconditionally and want to change your body?I’ve thought…
March 10, 2023
relationship rehabCommunication

How to Say No to Someone You Want to Make Happy

My client was feeling suffocated by his girlfriend. He loved her a lot and had no desire to break up, but he was starting to feel oppressed by her need to be in constant communication – texting continually throughout the day and talking frequently. He was happy with occasional communication…
September 11, 2020
Communication

Can You Trust Your Friends?

A Root Cause of Mistrust and How to Solve It Have you ever said yes, even though you really wanted to say no? On the flip side, have you ever wondered if someone who said yes to you really meant it? My client has been struggling with this. What she…
August 28, 2020