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Underground Desire, Mangled Request

Dining room curtains recently taught me how complicated my relationship with desire is and how bad I am at asking for what I want. I bought the curtains a month ago, to complete our kitchen and dining room renovation. But it was another month before I bought the rods. I…

Allison EvansOctober 7, 2022

Parenting & Family Life

When You’re Scared, Trust More

I’ve been worried about my son. It’s the classic parenting dilemma: your child has a problem, and you want to fix it for them, but you can’t – even if it were possible, it’s not your place. So, you smile and casually ask, “How’s it going with x?” and encourage,…

Allison EvansMay 27, 2022

Love & Relationships

Our Secret to a Happy Marriage

Guy and I have had 27 Valentine’s Days together, all of them happy. People have asked, “What’s your secret?” Good Luck I first want to acknowledge our privilege. We are lucky to be educated, well-employed, and white. It awards us right out of the gate an ease that not every…

Allison EvansFebruary 14, 2022

Parenting & Family Life

Kids, Parents, and Respect

This week my 18-year-old daughter told a story of how I’d crushed a dream of hers when she was a middle schooler. I could believe that I had an opinion on what she had wanted to do. But the idea that I would have “crushed” “a dream” – such high…

Allison EvansFebruary 23, 2021

Love & Relationships

Limping Along in a Relationship? How to Make It Strong Again

At the School for The Work, Byron Katie, the originator of The Work, was sometimes asked, “How do I know when I should do The Work? How do I know when I’m done?” She answered the question with a question: “Do you love it yet?” She didn’t say, “You’re done when…

Allison EvansFebruary 10, 2021

Love & Relationships

Self-Defense Is the First Act of War. . . Really?

My blog post last week was about an argument I had with my husband. I wrote about it to share my process for understanding and reconciliation. I also wanted to share that I’m not perfect – that, in fact, perfection is not what this work is about. This work is…

Allison EvansAugust 22, 2020

Love & Relationships

“Self-Defense Is the First Act of War”

Finding My Way After Losing It I’m pretty good at being married. I wrote a post about it recently, when we celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary (“Our Secret to a Happy Marriage”). Which is why it was so upsetting that I got into an argument with my husband this week.…

Allison EvansAugust 14, 2020

Communication Parenting & Family Life

Magic Words to Make Love Grow

In my previous blog post I gave you my process for clear communication. Processes can be transformational, but they take practice to get the hang of. Sometimes you want something simple, a big win in one step.

Allison EvansDecember 10, 2015

Love & Relationships

The Right Way to Fight with Your Spouse

Every judgment you have about your partner is an opportunity either to erect a barrier between you or to grow more intimate.

Allison EvansNovember 20, 2015

Communication

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