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Manifesting

Intentional Manifesting: Total Surrender Is the Power Move

It can be painful not to have what you want or to experience what you don’t want. But are these failures of manifesting really failures? What if, deep down, you like and want all of it – not just the “good” stuff – because what you want and like more…

Allison EvansOctober 25, 2024

Self-Care

The Power of Why Not?

I drove past that gym every day on my way home from the morning school run. It was big, gleaming. I knew inside would be deliciously cool and well-supplied. Every day I thought about going in and checking it out. But who has time to work out, I thought. I…

Allison EvansJuly 19, 2024

Self-Care

Stop One, Start One: Shifting Self-Care Habits

Last week I wrote about the unique ambivalence women have about self-care. We beat ourselves up when we don’t take good care of ourselves, and then we feel guilty when we do. Why? Because women are socialized into a unique duty of intimate, self-sacrificing care to their communities: we are expected…

Allison EvansJuly 3, 2024

Self-Care

Why Self-Care Gets a Bad Rap (and What to Do about It)

Self-care isn’t selfish. Why does that need to be asserted?It could be a neutral, self-evident statement, along the lines of, “Water isn’t dry.” To be alive is to have needs! Who better to know what those needs are and to meet them than the one who has them? Yet it must be…

Allison EvansJune 20, 2024

Stop Suffering, Start Living

Holiday Stress?

My client is a mom of three under seven – a big job on top of her big job. As we coached, she was surrounded by piles of outgrown clothes and toys, the detritus of a seasonal decluttering.“And now,” she announced incredulously, “we have to do presents!”I was supposed to…

Allison EvansNovember 22, 2023

Getting Things Done Stop Suffering, Start Living

Woman Sitting, Fingers Hovering Above a Keyboard

I was on retreat last week at The School for The Work. The Work is one of my favorite practices for finding clarity and freedom in daily life. The Work is a meditation. It doesn’t look like a meditation because it’s four questions, and questions look like cognitive tasks. But…

Allison EvansNovember 14, 2023

Getting Things Done

One Hundred Years

This thing you’re struggling to do, what if you knew you had one hundred years to do it? I came across this idea in Zen Mind, Zen Horse: The Science and Spirituality of Working with Horses, by Allan J. Hamilton, M.D. A rancher had a horse that got spooked by…

Allison EvansOctober 30, 2023

Parenting & Family Life

Kids, Parents, and Respect

This week my 18-year-old daughter told a story of how I’d crushed a dream of hers when she was a middle schooler. I could believe that I had an opinion on what she had wanted to do. But the idea that I would have “crushed” “a dream” – such high…

Allison EvansFebruary 23, 2021

Getting Things Done

How to Keep Your New Year’s Resolutions, Without Willpower or Self-Loathing

It was in life coach training that I finally became really curious about the phenomenon of the chronically unrealized desire: the dress size I could reach but never maintain; the French I never brushed up on; the savings plan I knew I should have but felt immediately behind on.

Allison EvansDecember 30, 2018

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