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Marriage as Serious Play

Everybody knows that marriage is “hard work.” But is it? I mean, is that the best way to think of it? Maybe not. “Marriage is hard work” is not an immutable law of nature. It’s a manmade concept. A concept is a shortcut for the brain, a tool to help…
February 16, 2024
Getting Things Done

One Hundred Years

This thing you’re struggling to do, what if you knew you had one hundred years to do it? I came across this idea in Zen Mind, Zen Horse: The Science and Spirituality of Working with Horses, by Allan J. Hamilton, M.D. A rancher had a horse that got spooked by…
October 30, 2023

The Tao of Barbie

Warning: This post contains spoilers. What did you think of the Barbie movie? I already wanted to see it, but the passion and commentary it has inspired – with fans making an event of it by dressing in pink and posting thrilled photos on social media, the hot takes that…
August 11, 2023

Are You a Heroine?

“I have a confession to make.” After three days together and almost non-stop catching up, my friend was getting vulnerable. “I’ve never read Middlemarch.” I sputtered for how to respond. Not because she had committed some crime. Because I was groping for an explanation as to why I am so…
July 14, 2023