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The Tao of Barbie

Warning: This post contains spoilers. What did you think of the Barbie movie? I already wanted to see it, but the passion and commentary it has inspired – with fans making an event of it by dressing in pink and posting thrilled photos on social media, the hot takes that…

Allison EvansAugust 11, 2023

Stop Suffering, Start Living

Mental Jiu Jitsu for Getting Unstuck

“It is better to receive than to give. How might that be true?”My client inhaled sharply, then started to weep.She was drowning in responsibilities at work and at home. She had come to our call asking for solutions but kept batting away my ideas.More than one “Yeah, but” in a…

Allison EvansJuly 28, 2023

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Are You a Heroine?

“I have a confession to make.” After three days together and almost non-stop catching up, my friend was getting vulnerable. “I’ve never read Middlemarch.” I sputtered for how to respond. Not because she had committed some crime. Because I was groping for an explanation as to why I am so…

Allison EvansJuly 14, 2023

Stop Suffering, Start Living

Reflections on Boundaries (for Givers and Women and Anyone Who Struggles)

“You don’t have to be angry to set a boundary,” I said. “Wait, what?” my client replied. She and her husband were having a disagreement over something that seemed trivial: he wanted to watch the evening news during dinner; she wanted to eat without it. “I just don’t want to…

Allison EvansJune 7, 2023

Getting Things Done Stop Suffering, Start Living

Should I Stay or Should I Go? An Authentic Desire Tool to Help You Find Clarity

“I just don’t know if it’s worth it anymore.” My client was lamenting the struggles of her relationship. Things had been so easy and delicious in the early days. But after a year together, differences that had been overlookable were taking center stage. “Do the pros still outweigh the cons?”…

Allison EvansMay 26, 2023

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What If You Don’t Know What You Want?

My client is one of the kindest people I know. She is patient, philosophical, and takes the high road and the long view. But she recently confessed to me that she didn’t know what I meant about “authentic desire.” “Is that some special category of wanting, some extra gear in desire that…

Allison EvansMay 12, 2023

Getting Things Done Stop Suffering, Start Living

What Do You Really Want?

I was in California again recently for another retreat. This time I was a participant, not the leader. I’m in a wonderful, pinch-myself place in my business and my life. My intention for the retreat was to discover – or rediscover – a vision for the future.I also just wanted…

Allison EvansApril 28, 2023

Love & Relationships Potpourri

The Heroines Retreat

My coaching group, Be the Heroine, just had its first in-person retreat. We met for a long weekend in beautiful Ojai, California. It had been a cold, wet winter there, but spring sprang on the day of our arrival. The rain stopped, the sun warmed, and the hillsides from Los Angeles…

Allison EvansApril 11, 2023

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Can Self-Love and Weight Loss Go Together?

Some of my clients want to lose weight but feel ambivalent about that desire. In this body-positive moment, to diet feels retrograde: a failure of self-love, a triumph of patriarchal conditioning, and fat-shaming masquerading as “health.” Is it possible to love yourself unconditionally and want to change your body?I’ve thought…

Allison EvansMarch 10, 2023

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