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How to Unblock Your Capacity to Receive

Soft and ready to receiveWhen our firstborn was six weeks old, we had a Superbowl party. I put her down for a nap in the bassinet, which was next to the TV. We were all impressed with how she slept through the din. But as soon as the TV was…

Allison EvansFebruary 23, 2023

Getting Things Done Stop Suffering, Start Living

If You Hate Resolutions (but Still Desire Change)

Me at age 10: the year I starting hating resolutions. “I don’t want to set a resolution,” my client said at our first meeting of the new year. “I don’t like goals, either. They always fail.”Strong emotion almost always hides a desire for the thing being rejected: my client wanted…

Allison EvansJanuary 26, 2023

Stop Suffering, Start Living

The Time I Tried to Quit My Mission

Was this my destiny after all?Last week I wrote about your mission as a sentient being that chose you to co-create with. It chose you not only for your gifts but to offer itself to you for your development. I asked you to think about why it chose you –…

Allison EvansNovember 17, 2022

Communication Love & Relationships Stop Suffering, Start Living

Underground Desire, Mangled Request

Dining room curtains recently taught me how complicated my relationship with desire is and how bad I am at asking for what I want. I bought the curtains a month ago, to complete our kitchen and dining room renovation. But it was another month before I bought the rods. I…

Allison EvansOctober 7, 2022

Stop Suffering, Start Living

After Tears and Rage, Insight: Three Vignettes

Above: That’s me on the left, at age four. She’s still inside me. (And my brother is still happy-go-lucky).I’ve been on vacation, and the space that opened up made room for some interesting events – high highs and low lows. After the first incident, I thought, “I’ve got to blog about…

Allison EvansAugust 25, 2022

Parenting & Family Life

Things My Daughter Taught Me

I’m in a reflective mood. Our daughter and firstborn, Elliot, turned 18. Before I had her, I knew I wanted to be a mother, but it was a blind instinct. I didn’t know what I was getting into. Honestly, I thought parenthood might be like it was on tv: the…

Allison EvansDecember 5, 2020

Parenting & Family Life

Thanksgiving: What Are You Ungrateful for?

Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday. It always has been. Children are supposed to love Christmas above all, but to me Christmas was too heavy with expectation (Would it snow? Would I get the presents I wanted? Would they actually make me happy?) and a little too confusing (Am I supposed…

Allison EvansNovember 25, 2020

Stop Suffering, Start Living

How to Coach Yourself When Things Are Out of Control

“Things are out of control.” That thought showed up in my self-coaching meditation this morning. I do it every day to know what’s on my mind, so that I can clear it and give the day a clean slate. I begin by journaling on the question that often begins my…

Allison EvansNovember 13, 2020

Parenting & Family Life

Feel Your Feelings: A Simple Path to Clarity and Agency

My husband’s elderly mother lives with us. She had been in an independent living facility, but it locked down in March because of Covid-19. By July the loneliness and restrictions were taking a toll on her mental health, so we invited her for an extended stay at our house. That…

Allison EvansNovember 6, 2020

Personal story

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