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What Is Joy, and How Can You Experience More of It?

What is joy?It’s such a compelling concept, but no dictionary definition I’ve ever read seems to capture it.If we can understand what it is, then we’ll know how to experience more of it.First, what it isn’t.Though joy can make you happy, it isn’t plain happiness. Happiness is what you feel…

Allison EvansSeptember 13, 2023

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Should I Stay or Should I Go? An Authentic Desire Tool to Help You Find Clarity

“I just don’t know if it’s worth it anymore.” My client was lamenting the struggles of her relationship. Things had been so easy and delicious in the early days. But after a year together, differences that had been overlookable were taking center stage. “Do the pros still outweigh the cons?”…

Allison EvansMay 26, 2023

Getting Things Done Stop Suffering, Start Living

What If You Don’t Know What You Want?

My client is one of the kindest people I know. She is patient, philosophical, and takes the high road and the long view. But she recently confessed to me that she didn’t know what I meant about “authentic desire.” “Is that some special category of wanting, some extra gear in desire that…

Allison EvansMay 12, 2023

Getting Things Done Stop Suffering, Start Living

What Do You Really Want?

I was in California again recently for another retreat. This time I was a participant, not the leader. I’m in a wonderful, pinch-myself place in my business and my life. My intention for the retreat was to discover – or rediscover – a vision for the future.I also just wanted…

Allison EvansApril 28, 2023

Stop Suffering, Start Living

How to Unblock Your Capacity to Receive

Soft and ready to receiveWhen our firstborn was six weeks old, we had a Superbowl party. I put her down for a nap in the bassinet, which was next to the TV. We were all impressed with how she slept through the din. But as soon as the TV was…

Allison EvansFebruary 23, 2023

Getting Things Done Stop Suffering, Start Living

If You Hate Resolutions (but Still Desire Change)

Me at age 10: the year I starting hating resolutions. “I don’t want to set a resolution,” my client said at our first meeting of the new year. “I don’t like goals, either. They always fail.”Strong emotion almost always hides a desire for the thing being rejected: my client wanted…

Allison EvansJanuary 26, 2023

Stop Suffering, Start Living

The Time I Tried to Quit My Mission

Was this my destiny after all?Last week I wrote about your mission as a sentient being that chose you to co-create with. It chose you not only for your gifts but to offer itself to you for your development. I asked you to think about why it chose you –…

Allison EvansNovember 17, 2022

Communication Love & Relationships Stop Suffering, Start Living

Underground Desire, Mangled Request

Dining room curtains recently taught me how complicated my relationship with desire is and how bad I am at asking for what I want. I bought the curtains a month ago, to complete our kitchen and dining room renovation. But it was another month before I bought the rods. I…

Allison EvansOctober 7, 2022

Stop Suffering, Start Living

After Tears and Rage, Insight: Three Vignettes

Above: That’s me on the left, at age four. She’s still inside me. (And my brother is still happy-go-lucky).I’ve been on vacation, and the space that opened up made room for some interesting events – high highs and low lows. After the first incident, I thought, “I’ve got to blog about…

Allison EvansAugust 25, 2022

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