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Mental Jiu Jitsu for Getting Unstuck

“It is better to receive than to give. How might that be true?”My client inhaled sharply, then started to weep.She was drowning in responsibilities at work and at home. She had come to our call asking for solutions but kept batting away my ideas.More than one “Yeah, but” in a…

Allison EvansJuly 28, 2023

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Should I Stay or Should I Go? An Authentic Desire Tool to Help You Find Clarity

“I just don’t know if it’s worth it anymore.” My client was lamenting the struggles of her relationship. Things had been so easy and delicious in the early days. But after a year together, differences that had been overlookable were taking center stage. “Do the pros still outweigh the cons?”…

Allison EvansMay 26, 2023

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What If You Don’t Know What You Want?

My client is one of the kindest people I know. She is patient, philosophical, and takes the high road and the long view. But she recently confessed to me that she didn’t know what I meant about “authentic desire.” “Is that some special category of wanting, some extra gear in desire that…

Allison EvansMay 12, 2023

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What Do You Really Want?

I was in California again recently for another retreat. This time I was a participant, not the leader. I’m in a wonderful, pinch-myself place in my business and my life. My intention for the retreat was to discover – or rediscover – a vision for the future.I also just wanted…

Allison EvansApril 28, 2023

Getting Things Done Stop Suffering, Start Living

Feeling at Capacity? Ask for Help.

Lately I’ve been worried that I’m forgetting to do something. That thought would come like a sneak attack during an otherwise happy day or peaceful night’s sleep and set my heart racing. It turned out I was right, but not in the way I feared. Getting to the Answer “What’s…

Allison EvansFebruary 9, 2023

Getting Things Done Stop Suffering, Start Living

If You Hate Resolutions (but Still Desire Change)

Me at age 10: the year I starting hating resolutions. “I don’t want to set a resolution,” my client said at our first meeting of the new year. “I don’t like goals, either. They always fail.”Strong emotion almost always hides a desire for the thing being rejected: my client wanted…

Allison EvansJanuary 26, 2023

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Set Your New Year Intentions

Intentions are the cool older cousin of New Year’s Resolutions – the one you only see once a year because she lives at the beach in California with her free-spirited mom, but they always come home for the holidays. New Year’s Resolutions are about hard work, willpower, and fixing what’s…

Allison EvansDecember 22, 2022

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The Time I Tried to Quit My Mission

Was this my destiny after all?Last week I wrote about your mission as a sentient being that chose you to co-create with. It chose you not only for your gifts but to offer itself to you for your development. I asked you to think about why it chose you –…

Allison EvansNovember 17, 2022

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Your Mission Chose You. Why?

Last week I wrote about aligning yourself with your mission instead of with the voices in your head that want you to play small and stay safe. When you are mission-conscious instead of self-conscious, you can play bigger – do things that feel risky, like, say, marketing if you’re a small…

Allison EvansNovember 4, 2022

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