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Feeling at Capacity? Ask for Help.

Lately I’ve been worried that I’m forgetting to do something. That thought would come like a sneak attack during an otherwise happy day or peaceful night’s sleep and set my heart racing. It turned out I was right, but not in the way I feared. Getting to the Answer “What’s…

Allison EvansFebruary 9, 2023

Getting Things Done Stop Suffering, Start Living

If You Hate Resolutions (but Still Desire Change)

Me at age 10: the year I starting hating resolutions. “I don’t want to set a resolution,” my client said at our first meeting of the new year. “I don’t like goals, either. They always fail.”Strong emotion almost always hides a desire for the thing being rejected: my client wanted…

Allison EvansJanuary 26, 2023

Getting Things Done Potpourri

Set Your New Year Intentions

Intentions are the cool older cousin of New Year’s Resolutions – the one you only see once a year because she lives at the beach in California with her free-spirited mom, but they always come home for the holidays. New Year’s Resolutions are about hard work, willpower, and fixing what’s…

Allison EvansDecember 22, 2022

Stop Suffering, Start Living

The Time I Tried to Quit My Mission

Was this my destiny after all?Last week I wrote about your mission as a sentient being that chose you to co-create with. It chose you not only for your gifts but to offer itself to you for your development. I asked you to think about why it chose you –…

Allison EvansNovember 17, 2022

Getting Things Done Stop Suffering, Start Living

Your Mission Chose You. Why?

Last week I wrote about aligning yourself with your mission instead of with the voices in your head that want you to play small and stay safe. When you are mission-conscious instead of self-conscious, you can play bigger – do things that feel risky, like, say, marketing if you’re a small…

Allison EvansNovember 4, 2022

Getting Things Done Stop Suffering, Start Living

It’s Not About You

Do you have a mission? The word mission comes from the Latin mittere, which means send – as in to be sent out into the world on assignment, to spread the word and create change.The women in my Be the Heroine coaching group either have a mission or are making themselves…

Allison EvansOctober 21, 2022

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Underground Desire, Mangled Request

Dining room curtains recently taught me how complicated my relationship with desire is and how bad I am at asking for what I want. I bought the curtains a month ago, to complete our kitchen and dining room renovation. But it was another month before I bought the rods. I…

Allison EvansOctober 7, 2022

Stop Suffering, Start Living

The Joy Experiment

Above: Look at the joy on those faces! Though not all the Heroines were present, this photo is special because it’s the first snap of the first time we met in person. “What if joy were my only metric for success?” The comedian Sarah Jones said this in conversation with…

Allison EvansSeptember 9, 2022

Getting Things Done

When You’re Tempted to Quit, Ask These Questions

My twin brother, Jack, visited recently. It was our birthday, and we like to spend it together if we can. We turned 51 and were feeling philosophical. What had we each done, and what did we still want to do, with our one wild and precious life? Jack raised two…

Allison EvansJuly 15, 2022

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