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The Work Is Not Your Abusive Ex

This Is Not That Last week I wrote about a challenging situation with a family member. My first attempts at doing The Work did not really help, because they were half-hearted; I still wanted me to be right and her to be wrong. But then I noticed that that didn’t…

Allison EvansFebruary 19, 2021

Love & Relationships

Limping Along in a Relationship? How to Make It Strong Again

At the School for The Work, Byron Katie, the originator of The Work, was sometimes asked, “How do I know when I should do The Work? How do I know when I’m done?” She answered the question with a question: “Do you love it yet?” She didn’t say, “You’re done when…

Allison EvansFebruary 10, 2021

Getting Things Done

The New Pleasure Principle: A Lighter, More Effective Approach to Change

Happy New Year! Have you made any resolutions? If you have, you’re in good company. About half of Americans make them, and by far the most popular resolutions involve making changes to diet and exercise. Count me in that bunch! By the time New Year’s Day rolls around, I’ve been…

Allison EvansJanuary 15, 2021

Communication

Can You Trust Your Friends?

A Root Cause of Mistrust and How to Solve It Have you ever said yes, even though you really wanted to say no? On the flip side, have you ever wondered if someone who said yes to you really meant it? My client has been struggling with this. What she…

Allison EvansAugust 28, 2020

Communication Parenting & Family Life

Magic Words to Make Love Grow

In my previous blog post I gave you my process for clear communication. Processes can be transformational, but they take practice to get the hang of. Sometimes you want something simple, a big win in one step.

Allison EvansDecember 10, 2015

self-responsibility

The Work Is Not Your Abusive Ex

Limping Along in a Relationship? How to Make It Strong Again

The New Pleasure Principle: A Lighter, More Effective Approach to Change

Can You Trust Your Friends?

Magic Words to Make Love Grow

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