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Mental Jiu Jitsu for Getting Unstuck

“It is better to receive than to give. How might that be true?”My client inhaled sharply, then started to weep.She was drowning in responsibilities at work and at home. She had come to our call asking for solutions but kept batting away my ideas.More than one “Yeah, but” in a…

Allison EvansJuly 28, 2023

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Reflections on Boundaries (for Givers and Women and Anyone Who Struggles)

“You don’t have to be angry to set a boundary,” I said. “Wait, what?” my client replied. She and her husband were having a disagreement over something that seemed trivial: he wanted to watch the evening news during dinner; she wanted to eat without it. “I just don’t want to…

Allison EvansJune 7, 2023

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Should I Stay or Should I Go? An Authentic Desire Tool to Help You Find Clarity

“I just don’t know if it’s worth it anymore.” My client was lamenting the struggles of her relationship. Things had been so easy and delicious in the early days. But after a year together, differences that had been overlookable were taking center stage. “Do the pros still outweigh the cons?”…

Allison EvansMay 26, 2023

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What If You Don’t Know What You Want?

My client is one of the kindest people I know. She is patient, philosophical, and takes the high road and the long view. But she recently confessed to me that she didn’t know what I meant about “authentic desire.” “Is that some special category of wanting, some extra gear in desire that…

Allison EvansMay 12, 2023

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What Do You Really Want?

I was in California again recently for another retreat. This time I was a participant, not the leader. I’m in a wonderful, pinch-myself place in my business and my life. My intention for the retreat was to discover – or rediscover – a vision for the future.I also just wanted…

Allison EvansApril 28, 2023

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Can Self-Love and Weight Loss Go Together?

Some of my clients want to lose weight but feel ambivalent about that desire. In this body-positive moment, to diet feels retrograde: a failure of self-love, a triumph of patriarchal conditioning, and fat-shaming masquerading as “health.” Is it possible to love yourself unconditionally and want to change your body?I’ve thought…

Allison EvansMarch 10, 2023

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How to Unblock Your Capacity to Receive

Soft and ready to receiveWhen our firstborn was six weeks old, we had a Superbowl party. I put her down for a nap in the bassinet, which was next to the TV. We were all impressed with how she slept through the din. But as soon as the TV was…

Allison EvansFebruary 23, 2023

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Dear Worth It

Dear Allison,I’m considering Be the Heroine, but I have a few concerns. What if I can’t make all the meetings? My schedule is already full, and I’m not sure I can add another thing to it. Also, I’ve invested in other programs before and didn’t get the results I wanted.…

Allison EvansDecember 1, 2022

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The Time I Tried to Quit My Mission

Was this my destiny after all?Last week I wrote about your mission as a sentient being that chose you to co-create with. It chose you not only for your gifts but to offer itself to you for your development. I asked you to think about why it chose you –…

Allison EvansNovember 17, 2022

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