The Work Archives - Allison Evans Coaching

Getting Things Done Stop Suffering, Start Living

Woman Sitting, Fingers Hovering Above a Keyboard

I was on retreat last week at The School for The Work. The Work is one of my favorite practices for finding clarity and freedom in daily life. The Work is a meditation. It doesn’t look like a meditation because it’s four questions, and questions look like cognitive tasks. But…

Allison EvansNovember 14, 2023

Getting Things Done

One Hundred Years

This thing you’re struggling to do, what if you knew you had one hundred years to do it? I came across this idea in Zen Mind, Zen Horse: The Science and Spirituality of Working with Horses, by Allan J. Hamilton, M.D. A rancher had a horse that got spooked by…

Allison EvansOctober 30, 2023

Potpourri

What Is Joy, and How Can You Experience More of It?

What is joy?It’s such a compelling concept, but no dictionary definition I’ve ever read seems to capture it.If we can understand what it is, then we’ll know how to experience more of it.First, what it isn’t.Though joy can make you happy, it isn’t plain happiness. Happiness is what you feel…

Allison EvansSeptember 13, 2023

Stop Suffering, Start Living

Reflections on Boundaries (for Givers and Women and Anyone Who Struggles)

“You don’t have to be angry to set a boundary,” I said. “Wait, what?” my client replied. She and her husband were having a disagreement over something that seemed trivial: he wanted to watch the evening news during dinner; she wanted to eat without it. “I just don’t want to…

Allison EvansJune 7, 2023

Love & Relationships Potpourri

The Heroines Retreat

My coaching group, Be the Heroine, just had its first in-person retreat. We met for a long weekend in beautiful Ojai, California. It had been a cold, wet winter there, but spring sprang on the day of our arrival. The rain stopped, the sun warmed, and the hillsides from Los Angeles…

Allison EvansApril 11, 2023

Getting Things Done Stop Suffering, Start Living

It’s Not About You

Do you have a mission? The word mission comes from the Latin mittere, which means send – as in to be sent out into the world on assignment, to spread the word and create change.The women in my Be the Heroine coaching group either have a mission or are making themselves…

Allison EvansOctober 21, 2022

Communication Love & Relationships Stop Suffering, Start Living

Underground Desire, Mangled Request

Dining room curtains recently taught me how complicated my relationship with desire is and how bad I am at asking for what I want. I bought the curtains a month ago, to complete our kitchen and dining room renovation. But it was another month before I bought the rods. I…

Allison EvansOctober 7, 2022

Love & Relationships Stop Suffering, Start Living

Finally Free

What you judge, you’re attached to. What you’re attached to, limits you. To release yourself from the limitations of attachments, release judgments. In other words: forgive.Forgiveness is close to my heart because last March I forgave something very big, and the results have astonished me: I feel freer than I ever have in…

Allison EvansSeptember 23, 2022

Stop Suffering, Start Living

After Tears and Rage, Insight: Three Vignettes

Above: That’s me on the left, at age four. She’s still inside me. (And my brother is still happy-go-lucky).I’ve been on vacation, and the space that opened up made room for some interesting events – high highs and low lows. After the first incident, I thought, “I’ve got to blog about…

Allison EvansAugust 25, 2022

The Work

Want to feel better and be happier? CLICK HERE for your free guide on mood management!